February: Let’s Be Honest About Love

February tries to tell us it’s about flowers and filters. But let’s be real. Some of you are tired. Some of you are healing. Some of you are smiling online and breaking quietly in real life. And some of you are strong but not soft anymore.

This month isn’t about proving you’re loved. It’s about asking yourself if you’re whole. Because you can’t keep saying “I’m good” when you’re exhausted from carrying everybody else. You can’t keep performing love and ignoring your own wounds.

Sis, let me free you gently. You deserve the kind of love that doesn’t require you to shrink. You deserve peace that doesn’t come with anxiety attached. You deserve relationships that don’t make you question your worth. And if we’re going to talk about love in February, let’s start here with you.

Not the version of you that shows up polished. The real you. The one God sees when you’re quiet. The you that still needs healing. The you that still has questions. The you that’s tired of being the strong one.

This month, I’m not asking you to chase love. I’m asking you to check your alignment. Are you loving from a healed place or a hungry place? Are you choosing people because they’re good for you or because they’re familiar? Are you staying somewhere because it’s safe or because you’re afraid to start over?

February is a mirror. It will show you what you’ve tolerated. It will show you what you’ve ignored. It will show you where you’ve been settling and calling it patience. And don’t panic when you see it. Just be honest. God can work with honesty. He can’t work with pretending.

So this month we’re not doing surface level self love quotes. We’re doing real work. We’re praying differently. We’re setting boundaries. We’re cutting conversations that keep draining us. We’re forgiving what hurt us so it doesn’t keep running us.

You can be loving and still have limits. You can be kind and still say no. You can be faithful and still walk away from what isn’t aligned. And hear me clearly, wanting healthy love does not make you needy. It makes you mature.

This February, I don’t want you distracted by who didn’t show up for you. I want you focused on who you’re becoming in private. Because the strongest version of you is the one that heals before she hardens.

Let’s grow up emotionally. Let’s pray boldly. Let’s stop settling. And let’s choose wholeness over attention.

With love,

Pastor Suretta Founder, She Is